It wasn't that long ago that the idea of a gay Christian was a fringe idea. A few extreme people way out there somewhere believed that. Sadly this ideology and theology has grown. I am in a Facebook group for Christian bloggers and have been amazed and dismayed at how many people in the group feel that way and can get pretty hostile to we who still believe the Bible says homosexuality is a sin and one cannot live that life and be a Christian.
Reasons Christians push a pro-gay theology:
I think you can boil it down to a few reasons for this wrong teaching and theology:
1) Many believe that we are born gay, so thus it is OK. People are also born addicted to drugs, with a predisposition to be alcoholics, and with a host of mental and physical deformities. That doesn't make those things OK or mean God is OK with them
2) So many people have tried to overcome it and have failed. I tried for years to be normal and "straight", only to go back to the porn and sex countless times. Is it easy? No..... but being a Christian isn't supposed to be easy. If being a Christian is easy, we probably aren't doing it right.
Kicking alcoholism, drugs, pedophilia, and other behaviors and addictions is not easy......does that mean the person should give up and just "do it", and that God doesn't expect those people to change and is OK with them doing it and being Christians? Of course not. So what makes homosexuality special that we shouldn't be expected to have a tough time of it? And what does it say about us if we can't handle the struggle and tough times to serve God instead of our desires?
3) It isn't fair that many would go through life with no sex or someone to love. Uh, there are a lot of heterosexual people who go through life single and celibate with no sex or someone to love, for varying reasons... especially women. Since when was sex a necessity for life? We don't need it for survival. God intended it primarily for reproduction, but Satan has so perverted God's plan, and homosexuality is just one of those ways.
4) We must love and affirm gay people, and that means total acceptance and allowance for Christian gays. No, it isn't love to affirm homosexuality and to encourage anyone to be gay and "just do it".
My story
I didn't fully grasp that I was gay until the age of 21. Once I discovered what was going on, I dove into the gay lifestyle as much as I could while keeping it a secret from everyone and letting everyone see the good Christian boy I was pretending to be.
This was the early 90's, and it was more difficult to find guys to hook up; but I did it. Personals, gay bars, adult bookstores - you wouldn't believe how much a cruising place those are for guys to hook up with other guys......guys having sex in the video viewing booths, meeting to go home with each other, etc...... I found places where guys cruised for sex, and managed to get a lot of notches on the bedpost for a while.
Then I got a computer and internet in 2000, and the hookups became easier and more frequent. I discovered gay bath houses where guys wander around in towels and have sex with multiple guys in one visit, gay chat rooms on the internet where guys looked to hook up - sadly these always had a few underage teen boys in them trying to hook up with adult males, and of course there were the multiple hook up sites all over the internet.
I always struggled with my weight, and at times wasn't overweight a lot, but was never my ideal weight. I still managed to hook up with at least 300 guys over the years, most likely more than that. I can't imagine what a young slim guy who is truly "hot" can do nowadays. And many of these young guys get uses over and over by older guys who see them as nothing more than a piece of meat.
The gay sex can get even more extreme and bizarre than heterosexual sex. Once "normal sex" doesn't satisfy, guys try to find other ways to have fun. .
It is not love
The idea of it being love to encourage a young person - or any person - to pursue being gay is insane. Setting aside the whole being a sin part and that it will send people to hell, there are a host of other reasons why homosexuality is a more dangerous lifestyle and that it is not love to encourage it. It makes as much sense to say it is love to encourage people to persist in other sinful and destructive behaviors and life choices such as drugs, alcoholism, adultery, obesity, etc.
Here are some statistics everyone should read, especially pro-gay people:
1) 2% of the population is gay, yet it accounts for 61% of HIV infection. Gay men are much more likely to become HIV#/get AIDS than heterosexuals.
This is a list of things gay people are more prone to get than heterosexuals:
Anal cancer
Chlamydia trachomatis
Cryptosporidium
Giardia lamblia
Herpes simplex virus
Human immunodeficiency virus
Human papilloma virus
Isospora belli
Microsporidia
Gonorrhea
Viral hepatitis types B & C
Syphilis: gay men contracted syphilis at 3 to 4 times the rate of heterosexuals.
HIV/AIDS: A study based upon statistics from 1986 through 1990 estimated that 20-year-old gay men had a 50% chance of becoming HIV positive by age 55. As of June 2001, nearly 64% of men with AIDS were men who have had sex with men.
Death and disease accompany promiscuous and unsanitary sexual activity. 70%25 to 78%x,13 of gays reported having had a sexually transmitted disease. The proportion with intestinal parasites (worms, flukes, amoeba) ranged from 25%18 to 39%19 to 59%.20 As of 1992, 83% of U.S. AIDS in whites had occurred in gays.The Seattle sexual diary study reported that gays had, on a yearly average:
Fellated (oral sex) 108 men and swallowed semen from 48;
Exchanged saliva with 96;
Experienced 68 penile penetrations of the anus; and
Ingested fecal material from 19
Some AIDS/HIV statistics from the CDC:
In 2013, in the United States, gay and bisexual men accounted for 81% (30,689) of the 37,887 estimated HIV diagnoses among all males aged 13 years and older and 65% of the 47,352 estimated diagnoses among all persons receiving an HIV diagnosis that year.
In 2013, gay and bisexual men accounted for 55% of the estimated number of persons diagnosed with AIDS among all adults and adolescents in the United States. Of the estimated 14,611 gay and bisexual men diagnosed with AIDS, 40% were blacks/African Americans; 32% were whites; and 23% were Hispanics/Latinos.
By the end of 2011, an estimated 311,087 gay and bisexual men with AIDS had died in the United States since the beginning of the epidemic, representing 47% of all deaths of persons with AIDS.
In 2011, CDC data showed that 80.6% of MSM with diagnosed HIV infection were linked to care, 57.5% were retained in care, 52.9% were prescribed anti-retroviral therapy (ART), and 44.6% had achieved viral suppression.
2) Gay people are about 50% more likely to suffer from depression and substance abuse than the rest of the population.
Multiple studies have identified high rates of psychiatric illness, including depression, drug abuse and suicide attempts, among self-professed gays and lesbians. Gay activists argue that mental illness is induced by other people’s homophobia and intolerance.
But that argument is undermined by an extensive study in the Netherlands — a country of legalized same-sex marriages where GLBTs are widely accepted.The Dutch study, published in the Archives of General Psychiatry, found a high rate of psychiatric disease associated with same-sex sex. Gay men were much more likely to experience major depression, bipolar disorder, panic disorder, agoraphobia and obsessive compulsive disorder. Lesbians were more often diagnosed with major depression, social phobia or alcohol dependence. The researchers found “that homosexuality is not only associated with mental health problems during adolescence and early adulthood…but also in later life.”
Depression and drug abuse, in turn, can lead to reckless sexual behavior, even among those who understand the deadly risks, such as older professional gay men.
73% of the psychiatrists in the American Psychiatric Association who responded to a survey, said that they believe that homosexuals are unhappier than other people.
3) Chances of molestation are greater in the gay life. There is a higher rate of molestation by parents among children raised by gay parents. 29% compared to .6%
4) Gay men are much more promiscuous than heterosexuals. 28% of gay men have had more than 1000 partners. 83% of gay men reported that they had had sex with 50 or more men in a lifetime. 43% estimated that had sex with 500 or more partners.
5) There is a lower rate of fidelity among homosexuals. Among married men, 75.5% reported sexual fidelity. 4.5% homosexual males reported fidelity. I can attest to that. In my years in chat rooms and on hookup sites, I ran across a lot of gay couples who were looking for others to join them for sex, and often one or both of them were doing it on the sly without the other one's knowledge.
Another website gives similar numbers:
75% of white gay males (3 of every 4) claimed to have had more than 100 lifetime male sex partners;
15% claimed 100-249 sex partners;
17% claimed 250-499;
15% claimed 500- 999;
28% (that’s more than 1 of every 5 white gay men!) claimed more than 1,000 lifetime male sex partners.
8) There are more dangerous sexual practices among gay people than heterosexuals:
a) Oral-anal contact (aka “rimming”). This is a popular sexual activity among gay men. One man inserts his tongue into the anus of another guy and does the equivalent of french kissing, only on the anus. Diseases are spread very easily through this unsanitary practice..... and it is very common.
b) Anal intercourse:
Beginning in the “gay” culture, anal sex has now been “popularized” among heterosexuals via systematic propaganda of pornography.
But the simple truth is this: The human body was not designed to accommodate anal intercourse.
The rectum is significantly different from the vagina with regard to suitability for penetration by a penis. The vagina has natural lubricants and is composed of a mucus membrane with a multi-layer stratified squamous epithelium that allows it to endure friction without damage and to resist the immunological actions caused by semen and sperm. In contrast, the anus is a delicate mechanism of small muscles that comprise an “exit-only” passage. With repeated trauma, friction and stretching, the sphincter loses its tone and its ability to maintain a tight seal. Consequently, anal intercourse leads to leakage of fecal material that can easily become chronic. Moreover, the intestine has only a single layer of cells separating it from blood. Therefore, any organisms that are introduced into the rectum have a much easier time establishing a foothold for infection than they would in a vagina. The single layer tissue cannot withstand the friction associated with penile penetration, resulting in traumas that expose both participants to blood, organisms in feces, and a mixing of bodily fluids.
Furthermore, ejaculate has components that are immunosuppressive, designed to allow the sperm to evade the immune defenses of the female. The fragility of the anus and rectum, along with the immunosuppressive effect of ejaculate, make anal-genital intercourse a most efficient manner of transmitting HIV and other infections. Below is a list of diseases found with extraordinary frequency among male homosexual practitioners as a result of anal intercourse. Sexual transmission of some of these diseases is so rare in the exclusively heterosexual population as to be virtually unknown. Lesbians are also at higher risk for these STDs:
c) Human Waste.....there are actually guys who will do the rimming thing on an unwashed anus and will also ingest human excrement. Yeah, nasty..... but there is no end in sight with bizarre and dangerous gay sexual practices........though this one is very uncommon to my knowledge.
d) Fisting. This very common practice, though I have never been around it, is for a man to insert his fist, often up to the elbow or shoulder, into the rectum of another man. Any sane person could see the health risks with such a behavior, but it is all too common.
e) Sadism Sadism is the sexualization of pain and cruelty, named for the 18th Century novelist, the Marquis de Sade. The medical consequences of such activities range from mild to fatal, depending upon the nature of the injuries inflicted. As many as 37% of homosexuals (more than 1 of every 3) have practiced some form of sadism.
Is it really love? No, it isn't.
Sadly, these are all very common dangers in the gay lifestyle. The chances of gay youth and adults engaging in a dangerous sexual activity are much greater than heterosexuals. So is it really love to encourage people to pursue this? Monogamy is rare, and it is found, how many different men and dangerous sexual activities will a guy go through before he finds that...... and if he does find it, anal intercourse is usually a given even then; and that is dangerous for even monogamous couples.
If the pro-gay Christians truly care about gay people and want to love them, they should thoroughly read up on the dangers of a gay lifestyle. They are doing no favors to anyone by encouraging them to pursue being gay. To love like Jesus is to love people no matter what, but to never, ever encourage sin.
And that is just the health and mental dangers. For me, the spiritual implications are even worse and more guaranteed.
Most of the information I got was on these two websites, though there are many resources on and off the internet that give similar information:
DCclothesline.com
BibleBeleivers.com
CDC
