Saturday, September 22, 2012

We can live without sex

Someone recently made some statements that have stuck with me. They boil down to this: we can live without sex.

Where did we get the idea that we have to have sex to live a fulfilling life? A major part of the pro-gay argument is that we have as much right to have sex as anyone else, but who says we have to have sex? I know a lot of single and celibate heterosexuals. Sure, most of them are women, but is it any more fair for them to remain celibate than for gay people?

I believe Hollywood is to blame a lot for the ideas most Americans have. Abstinence is mocked. It seems the norm that teenagers will have sex, and too many people scoff at the idea of waiting until marriage.

Steven Crowder is a conservative actor and comedian. I've never met him, but he seems like a great guy, and is a Christian. He recently married, I think around the age of 25, and he and his wife both waited until marriage for sex. He wrote a column about it, and liberals and conservatives alike have been mocking him and putting him down. Pretty pathetic. That is the way it used to be. People waited til marriage to have sex, and it was looked down on to not do so.

My how times have changed. Now you're in the minority and mocked if you wait. Now you're mocked and in the minority if you're gay and try to avoid sex and live the way God wants.

No one has to have sex to live. It isn't like food, water, and air. You do have to have those to live. But sex? No. And sure, there is more than sex involved. I long for intimacy and don't want to be lonely, but there have been a lot of single people throughout history that made it, and so can we, with God's help.

According to the Bible, Jesus was both man and God, and He had the same temptations that we have. We don't tend to think about it, and it almost seems wrong to do so, but that means He was tempted sexually. And He never gave in. He was tempted to lust, tempted to have sex, but He didn't. He was on this earth in His physical form until He was 33 years of age. He went through the teen years and early 20's when a man is at his peak sexually and it seems everything you see arouses you.....yet He didn't sin.

Once you have sex, its harder to stop and avoid it. I've found that out. Many times I have wished I could go back and say no that first time, and any time after, but I didn't, and now its harder to say no. Harder, but possible.

Life is so much more than sex, and can be lived without it.

1 comment:

Alexei Koslov said...

_________"Once you have sex, its harder to stop and avoid it. I've found that out. Many times I have wished I could go back and say no that first time, and any time after, but I didn't, and now its harder to say no. Harder, but possible." - Yes, couldn't agree more. There are lines that we should not cross, that God warns us not to cross, but when we do cross, things get all the more difficult. BTW, not only with sex, but with lying, cheating with taxes and, I believe, any sin.

Sin has this ability to lure us into believing we can keep it under control. Fact is, Jesus said that anyone who commits sin is a slave to it. He also said, however, that if the Son sets us free, we would be free indeed.

I belive that one way we can help others is by sharing our bad experiences - not just the good ones. This is something you could do. Whenever you speak in retreats or to youth groups, you could well mention this.